Don’t Wait (K.Blais)

Sometimes it’s easier to put off today what you can do tomorrow, right? 

We all procrastinate to some extent. Some of us are better at procrastinating than others. I, personally, can be a self proclaimed expert at it. 

There are times when I am very good at getting ‘stuff’ done right away, and, in fact, I’ve gotten better at procrastinating less about many  things. With some fairly recent lifestyle changes, my energy levels have increased and I’ve been much more productive in many areas of my life. But… there are still moments when I can’t seem to push myself to get to doing things. (Hence the lapse of time between this blog post and my last one, right?)

I think it’s ok to take breaks and to give yourself time to tackle things. I’m a firm believer in the idea that everything happens for a reason and that taking a reprieve from things (even when you don’t intend to) is good. When the time is right we often find ourselves getting back at “it” (whatever “it” is) with renewed vigour and enthusiam. 

We often place too many expectations on ourselves. This doesn’t help then when the world weighs us down with expectations as well. Sometimes it’s hard to force ourselves to clean out that closet or to get to the bank to pay the bills on time when the world is constantly screaming at us what we should be doing anyway. 

But we must remember this also: life is too short to put off doing the really important things. In a blink of an eye life can change completely. 

There are some things that we should never procrastinate in doing; the things that should be on everyone’s “Don’t Wait” list. 

Don’t wait 

To tell someone how much you care, whether that is to say I love you or to air out your differences. Life is too short to live with words left unsaid.

To show someone how much you care, whether that is with actions or deeds. Life is too short to live with acts left undone. 

To appreciate the little things in life, whether it is a sunrise or a sunset, a beautiful view or warm crackling fire. Life is too short to let the “busy-ness” keep us from enjoying the simple things.

To smile and laugh, whether it is at your own silliness or with great company. Life is too short to not laugh every day. 

To enjoy what you have, whether it is little or much, whether it is how you dreamed life to be or something completely different. Life is too short to always worry that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. 

Maybe instead of procrastinating it is better to do what you must today and what can wait until tomorrow should be left to wait. 

Life is too short to not enjoy each moment and to waste time beating ourselves up for procrastinating, isn’t it? 

The Bottom Line According To Me (K.Blais)

This evening I am sitting and thinking about life as I drink a glass of my favourite beer (Alexander Keith’s India Pale Ale, in case any of you were wondering). I decided that tonight is a beer night – as I am not feeling classy enough right now to break open the box of wine (haha!). But, in any case, I’m thinking a lot about how the last seven days have gone. I’m pondering over the ups and the downs, the frustrations and the successes, and I keep thinking about a phrase a dear friend used in conversation today: “the bottom line”.

For me, when I think of the bottom line, the underlying or ultimate outcome or criterion (according to Google dictionary), I think of it as kind of my own analysis of the end result of the day. It’s the time when I look in the mirror as I brush my teeth and wash my face before bed that I realize that how my day went really depended on me and my attitude towards it. Crappy things happened and maybe I made them even crappier by my own responses to them. Good things happened (maybe even on a crappy day) and how I reacted to those things also determined their ultimate outcome and perhaps even how they were perceived by others as well.

The reality is always going to be that crappy things can and will happen each day and some things and days are crappier than others. (I am sparing no fancy word choices here as you can tell by my repeated use of the word “crappy”.) There also can be really great days and great things that happen. Sometimes those days and things are even fantastic! The bottom line is all of those days, both good and bad, do happen, making our lives exactly the way they are, taking everything with the good, the bad, and even the ugly.

Our reactions to those “crappy” or fantastic things often make them better or worse when they occur especially when we consider how we react from the way others have treated us. As I have mentioned many times before, I try to live and preach the Golden Rule (treat others the way you would want to be treated), but not everyone shares this point of view. I am reminded of the final analysis quote by Mother Teresa:

The Final Analysis

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
…Forgive them anyway!

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
…Be kind anyway!

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
…Succeed anyway!

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
…Be honest and frank anyway!

What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
…Build anyway!

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
…Be happy anyway!

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
…Do good anyway!

Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
…Give the world the best you’ve got anyway!

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.    (taken from wowzone.com)

The bottom line is that we need to be who we truly are regardless of the way we are treated by others. If we are generous and giving and we end up being taken advantage of, then we should still be generous anyway. If we are kind and thoughtful and we are criticized for it, then we should still be kind anyway. If we are made to feel that we are not good enough or smart enough, then we should still be the best ‘us’ that we can be anyway. People will forget the good we do, they will criticize us for anything they can, and they will be jealous of our successes and happiness. This will happen, but the bottom line is that we must be true to ourselves and do what we believe is right, regardless of it.

The bottom line indeed is that it is not between us and “them” but that it is between us and God, and us and our own conscience. At the end of the day, we are the ones that have to look in the mirror and face ourselves. We are the ones that have to live with our behaviors and the choices which we have made that day, and every day for that matter. Even if those choices and behaviours make us cringe instead of being proud of them, they are ours to own and to take responsibility for.

The bottom line is that at the end of the day I need to be able to say that I make mistakes, but I will learn from them. That will always be the bottom line to me anyway.