Have you ever had one of those days where you thought – ‘This can’t be my life? I mean, I must’ve mistakenly stepped into someone else’s shoes today because this was not how I planned my day when I got up this morning’…?
For me, today was one of those days.
You can maybe relate to the type of day where everything seems to go wrong, nothing seems to be right, and everyone seems to be out for number one. Personally, I have a really hard time dealing with that last one – why is it that some of us are so driven to ‘get’ what’s best for us with no regard, worry, or concern about others? Some even feel that it is their “right” to get what’s best for them; that they “deserve” it.
I realize that, once again, I have chosen a touchy subject to blog about, and, don’t get me wrong, I have no problem with setting goals and achieving them. I would like to think, though, that I draw the line at “stepping on others” in order to get what I want.
In all fairness, sometimes this “stepping on” is done unintentionally, or at least unknowingly. At other times, the “stepping on” is a full blown stomp, steel toe boots included. In reality, some really don’t care who they trample on in order to get what they want, when and how they want it. It’s a sad reality. It’s like throwing compassion and regard for others out the window. In some cases, the trampling occurs when climbing the ladder of success, and sometimes it can occur in as simple a situation as claiming something that someone else wanted.
So, why does this happen? Have we become a society so driven to getting what we want that we will stop at nothing to get it? Will we trample on anyone we can to get what we think we deserve?
At times the view of the greater good is lost. By this I mean that we forget that we were put on this earth to help each other. Maybe instead of “stepping on” others to get what we want, we should try “stepping up” to the plate and doing things which are for the greater good or betterment of our organization, our team, and even our workplace. Maybe instead of looking out for number one, we should look out for others to help them, encourage them, and work with them to achieve mutual goals.
John Donne wrote, “No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less…; any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore, never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee.” (taken from Meditation XVII)
“No man is an island” (photo courtesy of flickr.com)
Perhaps a greater concern for others is necessary. We are not alone in this world. Perhaps we need to consider the feelings of others before making choices which affect them, and not simply base our decisions and actions solely on what’s best for us with no regard as to how they might change the lives of other people. John Donne also claims that “I am involved in all of mankind”, even as mankind dies so does a part of me. We should care and be affected by others. Above all else, the Bible states that we are to love one another as God has loved us; a pretty simple statement, but one that is not always so easy to follow.
Some of us are blessed to have those close to us who laugh with us, cry with us, and are there for us. There are those who just know by a simple hello that things are not right. The care and concern of a kindred spirit is irreplaceable. It is comforting to know that there are still people like these in the world.
Being stepped on is never easy to take. A sense of betrayal and disappointment in the “stepper” often overtakes any other reasoning in our mind. “Stepping up” to advocate for the greater good of the greater whole can be difficult as well, especially when it means putting our own desires to the side temporarily. But, we are not put on this earth to trudge through life alone. No man is an island. Step out and away from a focus on your own desires and become a peninsula; reach out to others on the mainland and still be true to yourself. It is possible to do both.
(Dear Readers, I am truly blessed and grateful to have a few kindred spirits in my life, old ones and new. For them, I am now and will forevermore be grateful. Love and compassion, ~ K ~)